Someone I know is pregnant with twins. IVF twins, after 4 rounds of IVF and a possible miscarriage, secondary infertility after primary infertility. And still... I flinched when I heard it. Isn't that stupid? I got lucky with one baby, and my feelings on having/trying for a second are worthy of an entire separate post,… Continue reading Secondary Infertility Fears
Warning: this is a vent, a frustration fueled vent, a hormonal oversensitive vent. Today I'm feeling like I just need to stop talking to people. First: my co-worker with the pregnant wife. He's the ultimate one upper. I'm going through a hard time with my family during this pregnancy, so naturally they are going through… Continue reading Pregnancy After Loss Frustrations
The biggest news is that we made viability. Yay! I am 24 weeks and 4 days today. We had a growth scan on the day we hit 24 weeks and baby girl is 1 lb 14 oz already and curled up facing my spine, hiding her face. I find myself being infinitely patient with not… Continue reading 24w4d (Viability, Infertility, Miracles, and Fibroid Hell)
This is my fourth October that I have taken part in some way in Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. This is my fourth year of pregnancy loss. Last October, I signed up for a local ceremony and walk with a required $60 donation. I was picturing something like the walk in the movie The… Continue reading Hello, October.
I can feel myself easing into the first stages of depression. My body is a tense knot of anxiety. I have forsaken the fucking fertility diet for the time being that I just am so tired of thinking about. I'm still taking my pills, and tracking my cycles, and trying to make a baby from… Continue reading Depression, Retreat, and Anovulatory Cycles
I pour over old medical records. When exactly did I become infertile? My right ovary was 3.5 mL over a year ago. A menopausal ovary is 2.8 mL on average. Right. When did my AMH drop? I’ll never know. My body is a mystery to me and to my doctors but they aren’t nearly as… Continue reading At Peace With Donor Eggs, IVF # 2
I finally did it. I left my Facebook support groups, except for my DOR and Donor Egg groups. Bye, bitches! Well, they weren’t all bitches. But this morning I saw a post from a woman who just transferred one of her many PGS normal embryos and got a strong positive before her beta, and oh… Continue reading My Future Motherhood
Does your face ever cry without your mind knowing it? This morning I was listening to an audiobook while I got ready for work and a character said she felt proud of the amazing children she and her husband had created. And my mind was on the tub of face cream in my hand but… Continue reading Second Guessing Infertility
Yesterday I stuck to my stupid gluten free dairy free blah blah blah and got on the treadmill and ate some brazil nuts and pineapple core, and then I put in my progesterone, got in bed, and fell asleep to my fertility meditation. Friday is my WTF appointment with Dr. M. I am going to… Continue reading Get Me Off Of Infertility Island!
When a fellow woman with infertility is suddenly pregnant having never received any fertility treatment ever, and now everything is smuggity smug pregnant happy times in your face. When another one manages 10 posts and is suddenly "blessed" with a "miracle" and half the updates are about "yay baby is coming", and the other half… Continue reading Smug Pregnants.